Monday, June 18, 2012

HI!!

I was a little nervous about blogging at first, but I found a few good ladies via Twitter and their blogs and I could relate to them so well and they gave me the courage to start. I ran it by my husband and he thought it might help me with my thoughts. So my name is Sarah, I'm 26 years old and I've only been married for a year. But we dated for 2 years before. We are in a DD marriage. I knew he believed in a man should lead before we got married. His father is also the same way, which he has admitted he heard his dad spanking his mother one night when he was 14. The whole time we dated, he as very dominate. He made choices where we would eat and h even wasn't happy at times when I was late getting ready for a date. When he proposed to me, he told me how he thought a marriage should be. Old fashioned and taken from the bible about women submitting to their husbands. He said he just didn't like women who were disrespectful to their husbands and "wore the pants" in the marriage. He did explain that should I choose to not follow his rules than I would be disciplined through spanking and maybe corner time or grounding. At first I wasn't sure I could live like this. But the more time I spent with him, the more I realized I was so in love with him and really couldn't see myself without him.

Has being submissive to my husband been easy? No. He is pretty consistent and strict. The first spanking he gave me I was devastated over. I was so afraid before it.  I cried for 2 hours and he held me afterwards and comforted me. (In another post I'll make a entry about my first spanking.) After I was finally composed the next day, I was sore but I felt closer to my husband. I can't explain how I love that he won't let me walk all over him. I think real men shouldn't let their wives walk all over them and yell and tell them exactly what they will do and my husband has said the same. Do I like the spankings? NO I do not. But I want my marriage to last and I do think DD makes a marriage better. I kinda think if DD were used in all marriages the divorce rate would be lower. My husband said if men would discipline their wives when they were disrespectful and damaged the marriage then a lot of marriages would last so much longer. The pain is better than a failed marriage or me yelling at him and making him feel like crap or pushing him away or hurting myself.

The problem with the US today my husband said is that our society won't let men be men or women be women. They have taught us that women should be the boss and make all the say in a marriage. This lifestyle gives great special bonds also with a husband and wife. Just too bad we don't have many real men in the world today. I hope to be back on later and I'll blog some more. I do not have a limit as long as I have gotten my chores done and I've done what he has told me to do and has no plans for us. Hope to meet new people also who are like minded. I've come across a few people via twitter and in real life that really down grades submission. Two have recently really put me and my husband down. I guess he was just afraid of his wife lol which is sad to me.

14 comments:

  1. Welcome to blogland Sarah! A blog is an interesting journey - when I started mine almost a year ago, I thought what on earth would I talk about and to date, I haven't run out of topics. I just talk about my life, marriage, husband, kids, beliefs, thoughts, humour etc. I'm sure you'll have fun with whatever direction your blog takes you!

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  2. Thanks Christina! I have realized I need an out lit for my thoughts and found blogging helped last night. I look up to some of my favorite bloggers like you and Chelsea! Trying to get the hang of this blogging thing on Blogger is a little tricky though lol.

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  3. Sarah,
    I'm 64 and think my 20 years of DD can be important to share. My husband is strict, punishes me toughly, never forgive my faults without a good spanking, or/and lines, corner time, early bedtime or grounding. It's often hard for me, but since 20 years we are a happy couple.
    One month ago, I try to know the number of spanking I was given all these years. Approximatively 100 by year. In 20 years, 2000!!!
    My little bum is always afraid by now before a spanking. When he removes my pants, I would pay a lot to avoid the punishment. But, it's too late. The whip will hit my derrière and the tears will flood.
    You have to know that even after 20 years of DD, a spouse make mistakes, be disrespectful, and deserves punishments. It's a long journey, often painful for our ass and our pride.
    A day, may be, your HOH will decide to wash your mouth with soap, or put on your tongue three drops of Tabasco for additionnal punishment. A good HOH have to be imaginative to remain his authority strong and efficient.
    Thanks for your blog. Be careful to avoid punishments.
    Best regards.
    Bree

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  4. Welcome to blogging , Sarah. I hope you find the experience rewarding and fun.

    Hugs,
    Hermione

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  5. Welcome to Blogland.
    It can be difficult to find people who make good friends when your relationship is structured differently than a lot of people think it should be.
    But I think you will find that blogging here doesn't come with the same drawbacks.

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  6. Welcome! Hope you enjoy your foray into the blogosphere. There are lots of bloggers with lots of different stories (mine is the only one of its kind that I have been able to find it blogland so far), but we find ways to still connect and learn from each other. If you keep an open mind and are willing to talk with others, you'll get to meet all kinds of people from all walks of life.

    Take care and best of luck.

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  7. Hello Sarah, its good to meet you. My hubby and I are also a DD family, and I very much agree with your view point that society have distorted the roles of men and women. Its the same in England as well. You see so many woman taking on the role of HOH and it just doesn't work. Its lovely to meet you and look forward to more posts. my hubby and I have recently started to blog again. come and find us.

    hugs,

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  8. Welcome to blogland! I think it's a great form of an outlet and it's a great way to connect with others into the same sort of thing. I look forward to reading more from you.

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  9. Hello, i have a spanking blog with many videos. If you like we can exchange links, please, if you like the idea, add your site to my list:

    Spanking Tube

    Regards

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  10. Hello and welcome to blogland, Sarah.

    Love,
    Ronnie
    xx

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  11. Welcome to the blogging world. You are off to a good start with your post on how you enjoy the submissive lifestyle.

    FD

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  12. Wow thanks for the replies!! I didn't really expect such a warm welcome but it makes me feel good. Sorry it took me so long to get back. I've been extremely busy. I hope to make lots of new friends who are also in this lifesyle.

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  13. Hi Sarah,

    Welcome to this great community! I'm still new at it myself. Looking forward to reading about your journey :-) Anna

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  14. I'm glad you start your marraige like this from the start, for most of us it is not easy to begin a discipline marraige after years of disrespecting our husbands, but luckely we are heading in the right way with DD. Good luck

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